I've started an Attachment Parenting yahoo group for Santa Rosa. I'm an AP momma who really needs support and community!!
Do you believe in co-sleeping? Breastfeeding/Extended breastfeeding? Gentle/Peaceful discipline? Responsive parenting? Baby wearing? Interested in learning more, or getting in touch with other like-minded parents? Need support? Know others who might be interested? Check it out, pass it on!
Hi! My little guy is 4 months old and we too are practicing AP. :) I'd love to get together. I could use the support as well. We're new to Sonoma County and don't know other parents!
For some reason, the link is acting funny. Here's the link to the group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/APSantaRosa/
Hi, my daughter is 5 days old :), and our family will be moving to Santa Rosa in June. I'm really interested in this group and would love to get together! Thanks so much for forming it!!
go ahead and join up now if you want. Can't wait to meet you and your little one! How is everything going?
Just wanted to speak up for the AP supporters! Follow your instincts. I did not have good parenting examples so I joined La Leche League, found wonderful, supportive friends through the Santa Rosa Mothers Club and practiced AP, regardless of what the nay-sayers around me said. We practiced co-sleeping (until age 6 or 7 - be prepared!), breastfed until appx. 14 months. Baby wearing keeps your baby content while you shop, surf the internet, whatever you are doing.
Today I have a close and trusting bond with my child. He's 14 and a freshman in high school. Often I hear what a nice young man he is. I am proud of his gentle heart and I know he will grow up to be a good man and a great father. Much of this I attribute to the natural benefits of AP.
Think about it...no other mammal on earth sleeps apart from their babies! We shouldn't either.
Thanks for your support Jeanne! I have found trusting my instincts with my second baby *much* easier than with my first.
My biggest challenge is fighting all the baggage from my own traumatic upbringing in order to raise my toddler with the gentleness and respect I know he deserves - I'm finding that particularly challenging right now, as I've become a full-time SAHM and am so isolated now that we moved up here. I'm definitely experiencing major mommy burn-out. That's why I reached out to form an AP group.
I know your children are much older, so we may not have much to offer you, but I would definitely LOVE an experienced voice in our group. I'm sure the other new mommys would appreciate your wisdom as well. Think about joining, if you think you can spare a little time - even if it's just to throw your two cents in an email every now and then. It would be so much appreciated!
Thanks again for your pro-AP vote!
Thanks for your kind words, Lisa! Ok...I'll join and give you new moms a bit of support and encouragement, if I can. Plus I enjoy the new mom stories!
Lisa, I hope you can find some mom friends to help you feel less isolated. I gained so much comfort and knowledge from my SR Mothers Club friends. Too bad SRM.com didn't exist back then! Babies don't care about playgroups but they are a lifesaver for the moms. My friends had multiple kids (I have 1) and they taught me so much. I don't know how I would have coped without them and all the advice they dished out while we were sitting in a sandbox.
It is so true that having your own children brings up all those old feelings, especially for those of us who didn't have a storybook childhood. It's also cathartic. I've gained a huge amount of satisfaction and pride from the fact that I did not raise my child the way I was raised, but according to my ideals. Respecting the child as a person and listening to their needs makes such a difference.
So glad you are reaching out and asking for what you need! You are already setting a wonderful example for your kids.