Kara Gebhart Uhl shared her pre-kid judgments she held in a public apology to all parents once she became a parent herself:
You, the woman at Kohl's who pushed a cart with your screaming toddler draped on the rack underneath it, ignoring her as she scraped her feet on the floor because she couldn't have the toy she wanted: I judged you.
Girlfriend with children who had Nick Jr. on the entire time I visited: I judged you.
Parent at the park who did not pack an organic, free-range, all-food-groups-represented, no-dessert lunch complete with sandwiches cut in cute little shapes, who instead fed your children chicken nuggets, cold French fries and (gasp) chocolate milk? I judged you.
Not out loud, of course. But internally, I was smug. I thought things like I would never have children who would behave in such a manner in public. Or, Doesn't she know the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no TV until the age of 2? Or, How can he possibly be feeding his children that crap? Has he not read any of Michael Pollan's books?
And what's worse, now that I'm a parent, I realize internal smugness isn't so internal. As a parent, I know when I'm being judged. I can sense it, even when nothing is being said out loud. It's in the look. The double-take. The whisper to the companion they're with.
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Have your pre-child thoughts changed since having kids? Do you ever feel judged in your parenting, especially from your kid-free friends?
Actually, my post-child thoughts are pretty much the same as my pre-child thoughts, they just come with an extra helping of frustration, insanity, curiosity, head-shaking and yes, lots and lots of unconditional love. NOW, if we could just do something about my mother, who, after raising five children, remains in her Nana years just as judgemental and critical as ever....